Here's how to... survive your first day in a new job

After following the tips and career advice I shared last month I'm pleased to say I managed to bag a job within two weeks of being made redundant. (Go me!)

As was to be expected, the night before starting my new role was spent feeling a stomach-churning mix of emotions and expectations on what the job would be like. Would I be good at it? After all, it was a huge change from the job I'd been doing before. Following your dreams is great, but what happens if I wasn't made for my dream job? Not only that, how were my new colleages going to react to me? Would they like me, or would I always be the New Girl, subject to office pranks and feeling like the outsider?

Well, after being in my job for a few weeks, here are more tips on how to handle your fears of communicating with colleagues when you're a new starter.

For shy, timid peopleIf you're naturally shy (or just shy when meeting people for the first time) I am right there with you. But no matter how shy you are, you need to make a great first impression. Shyness can believe it or not work in your favour when meeting for the first time. Dropped your bag while reaching out to shake someone’s hand? Or get tongue tied when introducing yourself? Then make a joke out of it. ‘Ooops, you can tell it’s my first day!’ ‘Haha let’s start again shall we?’ Not only will it rid the tension, but the person you're meeting will (hopefully) sympathise.

But just be aware, shyness can come across as quite snobby. Obviously this is not the case at all, but your new colleagues don’t know that, do they? So my top tip is to try and be as open as possible, and smile a lot!

For confident, driven people
If you're a bold person then that’s great! People are more than likely instantly going to warm to you. It's a great quality to have and something you shouldn't change just to fit in, so go in strong but in a way that you don’t announce that you are in the building. Keep it professional, be genuine and put everyone at ease by extending a firm handshake. Build up a rapport with subtle conversation of work with a little lifestyle thrown into the mix. Just remember, being over-confident can make you come across as a loud-mouth and in some cases a professional threat. So until you're settled, don't be too OTT.

For fun, bubbly people
Bubbly my favourite kind of person. You can't help but instantly like a friendly person. But this can leave you an open target for people to walk all over you, take advantage of your kind nature and in some cases make fun of you. I've experienced this the most throughout my working life - I am friendly yet professional and will talk to anyone, but over the years I have learned to tone it down as you can become a number one target. ‘Amy, do you mind helping me with this,' ‘Amy, can you make me a cuppa,' etc.

So I suggest, when meeting your colleagues for the first time, announce a happy good morning/make a little chit chat with them. Once you have talked a little while, simply end the conversation with 'what can I start with first?' This instantly gives off the vibe that you are friendly but don’t mess around when it comes to your work.

But what about those awkward first-day situations? Reed.co.uk have put together a survival guide for all those office blunders.

Forgetting someone’s name
This has the potential to lead to big office embarrassment. If you’re showing the new person around the office, including introductions to the whole department, what do you do if your mind draws a blank? Forgetting names is quite commonplace. A simple ‘Hi guys, we’re just doing the intros. Would you mind saying a few lines about yourself…’ is a simple way to prompt your colleagues to introduce themselves – and a chance for you to log their names in your memory bank.

The colleague aroma
Fragrance is subjective, but if you’re finding it particularly difficult to work along someone’s overwhelming scent, it’s best to get it out in the open. One solution is to approach them directly (and discreetly) to tell them the truth. It might not be easy, but an open conversation is the most professional way to address the issue and the person concerned should thank you (at least in the long-run). If you’re not so close, try finding a mutual acquaintance and explain the situation. They will then be able to pass on the information and hearing it from a friend should help to soften the blow.

Email blunders
Some awkward situations can be attributed to technology. Accidentally sending something you shouldn’t to the very colleague you don’t want to see it falls into this category. The only thing you can do in this situation is come clean and apologise, listen to their reaction, and say that you hope both parties can now move on from this issue. From your personal point of view, you should learn to ask yourself about what the consequences would be if your message ended up in the wrong inbox.

Overhearing office gossip
Wherever there is a water-cooler and an overly intrusive co-worker, there will be office gossip. Our advice is to avoid it. The moment you become part of the proceedings you begin to ask for trouble. Even if you’re not involved, if the piece of information gets back to the source, you will look just as guilty as the busy-body who told you about it. It’s also vitally important you consider the feelings of those being talked about. In many instances, what begins as ‘innocent gossip’ can escalate to bullying in the workplace.

What about you? Did you have a memorable first day, or are you more one to settle in slowly? Let us know your top tips for settling into a new job!

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Is it good to be bad these days?

It's a question I've wondered a lot recently. Think about it, the media tends to love a drama and there are always stories about women being ‘bad’ these days.  Take Rihanna for example. In my opinion, she's an excellent singer and has great style. But all that seems to be shadowed by one thing: the attitude she has. Yes, she's talented and who doesn't love to party? But falling out of nightclubs, openly admitting and sharing images on Instagram (where many of her followers are in their early teens) she smokes spliffs and dating dangerously abusive men. But yet, for some unknown reason we still love and support her.

Don’t get me wrong, I hate judging people because really, no one knows what someone else is going through at any one point in their life. But I can’t help think the press celebrates when they do wrong.

Because of course, this leads to more coverage. Which gets people buying those papers and magazines. Which makes the celeb popular. And makes brands clamour to get them on board. In 2005, Kate Moss was papped using cocaine with Pete Doherty. It was undeniable, and she knew it. When she got found out, she gave no apology. Sure, she was dropped from one campaign, but gained several in return. Her contract was renewed at Rimmel London, she became the face of other brands, and even Sir Phillip Green offered her a clothing line at Topshop.

So if that’s the case, maybe we should all become addicts and we will get fame and fortune…right?

It’s not all women though. Take a look at Spencer Matthews or Mario Falcone, both cruel cheaters who had the most beautiful girlfriends (and fiancée may I add) but yet they played away. They denied it of course, and Spencer was filmed saying anyone would try and cover over when they'd done something wrong. When it got to the end, they then admitted all with a grin on their face, and to see a flock of another hundreds of girls pawing at them.

Maybe I come from a sheltered life, but since when has this been acceptable? I remember at the age of 12 a friend of mine's father had cheated on her mother and when her mother found out she threw him out of the house, cut all contact and the whole of the town shunned him. If that happened now, in 2013, he would probably get a pat on the back. Because it's just 'boys being boys'.

So what about me? In my previous job, my colleagues (who are a lot older than me) would always say 'Amy, you're too young to be staying in at home, go and live your life!' I felt like because I was being relatively tame I wasn't normal. I didn't need to smoke or drink heavily. I didn't need relationship drama or spats with friends. I wasn't fussed about meeting people in nightclubs. In fact, it got to me so much that I asked for advice off a trusted friend. She ended up giving me this advice which was passed on from Elle Magazine's editor: ’Don’t f***k it up! Go horse-riding, or jogging or start knitting. Just don’t start going to nightclubs for the sake of it, because it won’t end well. You got it all sussed. Don’t believe the hype - being normal is underrated.'

Since that passed down trusted advice I have continued as I am.

With the sad news of Corey Monteith dying from his addiction, which was nobody's fault but his own (even though it pains me to point that out) and with Tulisa ‘having a comeback’ from her addict ‘ordeal’ and being outed as allegedly sourcing Class A drugs, being 'bad' doesn't mean being exciting. So I'll still read about them, but I'll always be behind and support those celebrities who make the right decisions.

By Amy.

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Unique and only-a-little-bit touristy things to do in Dublin

So you’re visiting Dublin but you’re not particularly fond of The Black Stuff and you’re definitely not part of a 10-man stag party. You have all the usual tourist spots circled on your tourist map: the statue of Molly Malone, Ha’penny Bridge and Kilmainham Gaol but you’re itching for something a bit different.

Here, let me scratch that itch for you.

The National Leprechaun Museum, Jervis Street
Here’s your opportunity to see the world as a Leprechaun does, and at the same time uncover the tales that lie behind these diminutive cultural icons and other mythological figures of Ireland. Visit Fairy Hill, walk under (yes, under) The Giant’s Causeway and journey to the end of the rainbow; finding a pot of gold cannot be guaranteed but a great afternoon is highly likely.

If you’re in the mood for something spooky on an evening but want to forgo the usual city ghost walks take a trip to Cnoc Dubh, a town where strange events are causing concern. Running throughout July and August, Dark Land is an interactive story telling experience featuring characters from the darker side of Irish Mythology. It’s your job to help discover who, or what, is to blame for the unrest in the village.
A standard adult ticket for a daytime tour costs €12
A ticket for Dark Land, suitable for adults only, costs €20

Foam Cafe, Strand Street
Foam Cafe’s pride in being individual and somewhat different makes walking through the door a real “wow” moment. Packed with kitsch collectibles and eclectic pop culture paraphernalia, munchtime here is as much a treat for the eyes as it is for the taste buds. Marilyn Monroe fairy lights, Japanese kawaii dolls, more vintage lamps than your Granny’s house and a fantastic menu; a trip to Foam Cafe is a must.

St. Michan’s Church
St. Michan’s Church is home to The Big Four; The Unknown, The Nun, The Thief and The Crusader. Sure, they may sound like members of an edgy girl band, but they are in fact corpses. Exposed corpses.
Originally buried hundreds of years ago, conditions within the crypt of the church have led to the disintegration of their coffins and although viewing a purposely uncovered body is obviously a massive no-no, the fact they've unveiled themselves means that they have now become a bit of a tourist attraction.
The Crusader, who lies awkwardly in his coffin thanks to his 6 and a half foot frame, even holds out his hand allowing visitors to touch it. There’s an opportunity you don’t get every day.
An adult ticket to visit the crypts cost €5

Ceili at The Church, Jervis Street
Rather than pounding the pavement all day, put on your dancing shoes and head to The Church on Jervis Street to experience some real Irish craic. You’ll spend an hour and a half learning the main steps in Irish dancing from award-winning instructors followed by a relaxing evening at a venue renowned for its breathtaking interior. Of course, you could forgo the dancing and head straight for the restaurant.
Tickets for groups of fewer than 10 people for dancing, dinner and a drink start at €30

If you fancy seeing what else Dublin has to offer, check out the official tourism site.

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Why do I write about rape? (GRAPHIC CONTENT WARNING)

[This article contains graphic content and traumatising descriptions of rape. Please do not read this feature if you are sensitive to the subject being discussed. Bess is currently studying criminology, which is why she was given full approval for this piece. - Laura]

If you follow me on twitter, you may have noticed that I go through phases of ‘informing’ (ranting) my followers about the abysmal way rape victims are treated in England and Wales. I am often inundated with abuse (from women more often than men) about why this is so.

Apparently, men falsely accused of rape have their lives ruined. I don’t doubt this. I don’t doubt that anyone who falsely accuses another of a crime they didn't commit should be held to account for their actions.

But I question the logic that being accused of rape is worse than being accused of all other crimes: murder? Child abuse? Arson? The suggestion that false rape accusations are more common than false accusations of other crimes is lacking in all empirical foundation. All evidence suggests rape victims are more likely to lie about being raped than not being raped. Rape is the most under-reported crime. If you’d like to know why, pop down to your local Crown Court and sit in on a sex crime trial. Consider how the complainant is treated. You’ll believe me then.

Writing about rape is miserable. I have an uncanny ability to turn tube rides, dinner parties and job interviews into assessments of how society treats rape victims. It’s not a skill I put on my CV. Because writing about rape, working with victims and confronting perpetrators isn’t a whole barrel of laughs. Throughout the time spent working on my theses I’ve read more graphic accounts of sex crime than I could ever recall. But there is one that will stay with me forever. It is a constant reminder of why there is a need for people to stand up and hold society accountable for our treatment of rape victims.

The story in question isn’t a western story. It was part of a study that examined the behaviour of soldiers in the Democratic Republic of Congo. Congo has been heralded as the ‘rape capital of the world’. I read the story of a woman who was gang raped in front of her two children. Another of a woman who was raped by men - and by their weapons. Weapons that were then discharged inside her. A third story of a woman force fed her young son’s genitalia. Have you had enough yet? I could go on.

The atrocities that have happened in the DRC are incomprehensible. What people are capable of doing to one another sickens me. Rape dehumanizes. Rape is about exerting control. Rape is all about the perpetrator. It is never about the victim. The victim could have been anyone. The victim was in the wrong place at the wrong time. And that is true whether the issue is war crimes or relationship crimes. Any other mother in that African village, or any other person in the bar on the fateful night that you gave out your number: never knowing it would spiral into the most abusive years of your life.

I write about rape to try and express how it makes me feel. The despair. The frustration. The exhausted, angry tears. Desperately seeking to give a voice to victims. Because if we, in Britain – with a justice system heralded for fairness – can’t “do” rape trials right, what possible hope is there for those in countries without a functioning government? Who are treated like objects every day of their lives? Who will watch their daughters grow up in fear and poverty, and wait for the same fate to befall them.

I don’t want my daughters to feel like they will be judged if they are violated. I want them to grow up in a world where victims are supported, defendants are accorded their due process rights, and offenders face their punishment.

We’re not there, so I keep writing.

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Why I just love Kate Middleton (and why she's our Diana)

When I say Kate Middleton, what's the first thing that springs to mind? Her superb and flawless style? Her simple but stunning look? Or the fact she's married to one of the world's most most popular royals, Prince William?

I can’t help but think she is our version of Princess Diana. You see, I've always had a thing for Diana. I'm aware she was like Marmite - you either loved her or hated her. For me, I was a firm Di fan. I loved her and remember being amazed at watching her wedding to Charles on a video tape that my mother had.

There are some difference though. Since Kate first came on the scene in 2001 at St Andrews University, the Prince and Kate started off as friends. What grabbed Wills' interest in Kate is when she stole the show at a fashion event, and the heart of Prince William.

Since then there have been a few ups and downs (and a very exciting meeting of love at a rugby game!) but Kate and Wills finally settled down and were officially known as a couple. After much etiquette and training in how to be a royal, on April 29th 2011 the pair got married. It seemed the whole world turned up for the occasion, I know it was the talk of the town for months on end, with street parties being organised to celebrate the occasion.

Another reason I love Kate is because she's helped give Britain a name we can still be proud of. Diana was a humanitarian, and her work abroad resonated with people. Her kind and compassionate nature gained her the title of the People's Princess. During the recession, Kate had worn good ol’ British High Street clothes rather than plump for designer brands and you'll-never-be-able-to-afford-this dress, which as a result made sales soar. Zara especially have benefited from Kate's outfit selections. And many would claim Kate helped kick the recession in the backside!

Now as I'm not in the finance industry I don’t know about that for certain. But I can for one remember how hard the recession hit me. At the time of dribs and drabs of life it, was nice to see Kate support the high street, and if I am very honest, making the royal family seem far more down-to-Earth than their image was before. After all, she was just a middle-class girl beforehand, and marrying into royalty hasn't changed that.

With the birth of the royal baby making headlines across the world, it has been reported that die hard fans are camping outside the hospital ready to hear that long-awaited name and wish the happy couple well, and to get those elusive pictures of the baby boy before anyone else. I was very excited and waited with baited breath, finally hearing the news that our future king had been born. With that said, I wonder what they will call him? And I wonder what Diana would say if she could see them both now?

But I know what Diana would advise us ladies: get down to a rugby match because who knows, you could find your very own Prince! See you down there ladies!

Are you a fan of Kate and Wills or really not fussed about the couple? Let us know!

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Review: Hotel TerraVina, New Forest

Hotel Terravina is run by Nina and Gerard Basset OBE, a husband and wife team who've got hotels in their blood - Nina was a hotel inspector, and together they co-founded the original Hotel de Vin group in the 90s. So when I was invited to stay in their award-winning boutique hotel in the heart of the New Forest, I jumped at the chance. The hotel is nestled in the middle of a wooded area and prides itself as being a true boutique - with only a handful of rooms and individual service.

On arriving, we were greeted by a friendly receptionist who had us sign in and showed us up the spiral staircase to our room for the night. The place is full of little touches of luxury - for example, by the front door are pretty wellies and umbrellas in all sizes, which was perfect for those who wan to explore the surrounding in typical British weather.

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The top five weird and wonderful bars in Birmingham

Last year, having temporarily relocated far, far further north than I ever envisaged myself living (look, Birmingham is north to Londoners, ok?) one of the first questions I had about my new surroundings was where the best bars are.

London has everything. Gin in teacups served in a lingerie shop.
Secret speakeasies only accessed through dark, unmarked doors.
Bars that have proper Germans serving proper German beer in proper German lederhosen.

In fact, anything you want, London has. Even THOSE bars. You know the ones I mean. Weirdo. Anyway,  this was a genuine concern, because as much I love staying in for a cool glass of wine on hot summer nights, nothing beast the buzz of a good bar. Even my hometown of Brentwood is packed to the rafters with swanky drinking courtyards and oh-so-much bling.

But the guys and girls at DesignMyNight have reassured that my now-nearest town has loads to offer, and Katie has suggested five places that bring a bit of crazy unique to the West Midlands.

The Lost and Found | 8 Bennetts Hill, Birmingham, B2 5RS 

We’re all explorers at heart, with The Lost and Found in Birmingham city centre being no exception. A botanical themed bar based around the adventures and discoveries of Victorian explorer Hettie G. Watson, The Lost and Found is a fairytale of whimsical floral decor and mass cocktail appeal. With cocktails tailored around this explorer’s very own findings, The Lost and Found have a crafty menu of flavours that come in anything from a jam jar to a milk bottle. And shh, don’t tell anyone, but there’s an elusive secret bar to be discovered too…

The Jekyll and Hyde |  28 Steelhouse Lane, Birmingham, B4 6BJ

With the world’s best bars and restaurants seeing a grand mixology takeover these past few years, Birmingham wasn’t going to be left behind. At the forefront of cool and quirky cocktails in Birmingham, The Jekyll and Hyde in Birmingham’s Colmore District not only boasts their own Victorian gin parlour, but also a selection of some of the most weird and wonderful drinks in the city. From cocktails made of rum flavoured toothpaste, to sharers served in mini porcelain baths, The Jekyll and Hyde doesn’t just have a split personality, it has a tasty one too.

Le Truc | Ladywell Walk The Arcadian, Birmingham, B5 4ST

Who said that you need jump on a train or scurry around after your passport for a taste of Europe? Hidden in the heart of the city, Le Truc is a Parisian wonderland of cleverly crafted cocktails and chic bistro dining that will have anyone swooning for the streets of gay Paris. Brimming with sandy tones, decadent chandeliers and whole host of cool urban graffiti pieces by local independent artists, Le Truc is a quirky blend of the contemporary and classically cool.

Bacchus | Burlington Arcade, Birmingham, B2 4JH

Hidden under the rows of Birmingham’s most popular shopping streets is a weird and wonderful drinking hole that will leave you with a hankering for days gone by. Brimming with stunning stone masonry, rich elegant woodwork and vintage flecks, Bacchus is something of a Medieval themed bar in the city centre that nods to ‘ye olde’ traditions and classic British grub (with a great selection of cask ales if you’re interested, too).

The Church Inn | 22 Great Hampton Street, Birmingham, B18 6AQ

When Deep South dining arrived with a bang in Birmingham, thanks to Soul Food Society’s Carl Finn, the city knew he wouldn’t stop there. Now boasting his own bar in the shape of the Jewellery Quarter’s The Church Inn, Carl Finn has given Birmingham a slice of everything from speakeasy charm and rooftop cinema screenings, to tailor made bespoke cocktails. At incredibly affordable prices with main meals at no more than £9 a pop, this Deep South adventure is a true foodie’s mecca.

What about you? Do you know a quirky Brummie bar that I should visit? Let me know below or on Twitter!

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The essential beauty packing list for any holiday

Our lovely writer Bess recently flew a few hours away to the island of Malta. You may have read about it. But with ever-decreasing luggage allowances (and strict rules on liquids if you're only taking hand luggage) packing for a week away can be tricky. So here's a mix of tried and tested fave products and new samples Bess took for her adventure holiday last month. Bonus: it all fits into one wash bag. Perfect for those stingy weight limits!

For face
Now I’m a skin care fiend, so prioritising space over products has been heart wrenching. Yet I’ve managed to narrow it down to:

Morning cleanser
Alpha H Balancing Cleanser with Aloe Vera

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What happens when your house isn't a home?

Every now and then, I chance upon people who work all manner of jobs. So when I was searching for people to have their say on the Greenpeace Arctic Ice Climb the other day, I virtually met Eleanor Perkins who works for Habitat for Humanity. Their aim is to help people fight poverty through building safe, decent homes. Here, she tells us what her job involves and why the stories of the slums need to be told.

"The UN estimates that 1.6 billion people – approximately one in five worldwide – lives in a home that is dangerous, makes them sick, is overcrowded, and keeps adults and children alike trapped in poverty. There are too many people living in ‘poverty housing’ – under tarpaulins propped up by the side of the road in Mumbai, in crumbling Soviet apartment blocks in central Asia, in vast slums or in rural shacks.

"My role is all about finding the stories of the people Habitat for Humanity needs to help, or has already helped, and then sharing these stories," she says.

For example, take Yoy, 39, who lives in Cambodia. He constantly struggles with peace of mind as he leaves his wife and six children in their rented house to scavenge the dumpsite in the city centre at night. "Their neighbourhood is not safe. There are conflicts and violence, but he doesn't have much choice about where he can live," Eleanor says.

“He usually makes it home by 12:00 or 1:00am, spending his mornings helping out his wife, who just gave birth, with house chores. In the afternoon Yoy repairs bicycles at home: this gives the family a little extra for daily living. After dinner, he prepares his rubbish cart and sets off to the main areas of Phnom Penh to scavenge."

Eleanor knows that it isn't just Yoy who struggles. "His four elder children sometimes walk the three kilometres from their village to primary school just to save on transport costs. Sometimes they help their father picking waste at night, in order to help the family get by. This highly affects their studies." Yoy admits this isn't something he wants his children to go through, but he simply doesn't have a choice.

The community Yoy’s family live in is on low-lying land. It always floods in the rainy season because there's no sewage or drainage system. "The houses are closely packed together with rubbish and recycling. In the middle of the chaos, Yoy’s home is a hut, 4m x 5m which houses Yoy, his wife and their six children. It is made from scraps of palm tree and pieces of rotting wood. An old tent covers some parts of their wall, but rainwater easily leaks through. The floor is made of fragile pieces of bamboo and wood. There are four community toilets nearby but they are dirty and unsafe so most families opt to go out to the field behind their homes. There is no safe water supply."

The family pays around £13 per month to rent this land. In Cambodia, the average annual wage is around £700. So despite the issues he faces with flooding, a huge chunk of money goes to keeping it. Although Yoy is in constant fear of eviction. Their landlord has plans to develop the land and uses this to his advantage, demanding increases in rent and preventing them from connecting to state water supplies.

"The home we live in affects every part of our lives," Eleanor says. "When it's a warm and secure place our health is protected and our children can learn and grow. A decent home creates opportunities for livelihoods to thrive. It’s the building block from where families and communities grow stronger together. This autumn, Yoy and his family will build a new, secure and healthy home with Habitat for Humanity, away from the dangers of the dump."

He says: “I wish for my children to be able to focus on their studies and to be free from threats and the polluted environment we now live in. Moving to [the Habitat for Humanity home] will give my family and me a better life. I will have peace in my mind and in heart, and we will be able to start saving.”

"That is Yoy’s story so far," Eleanor says, "and Yoy’s story is why I work for Habitat for Humanity."

You can help families in desperate need to build a decent home by giving a little over 53p per day. Visit Habit for Humanity to get more information. And thanks to Eleanor for sharing her experience.

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Review: Burritos at Tortilla, Charing Cross, London

Burritos are contentious things. Who would have thought a simple question like 'Where can I get the best burrito in London?' could cause so much controversy? It seems this Mexican street food tends to gain a loyal following, with Daddy Donkey, Freebird and Luardos often being the most popular options of the capital.

Just in case you've been living in a cave for the past few years, burritos are a Mexican delicacy. Some say it's beef or chicken wrapped in a tortilla. But it's so much more than that. Obviously you have a choice of meat or peppers if you're a veggie. Then there are the added extras. Like soured cream, cheese, refried beans, salsa, guacamole and lettuce. If you're doing it right, a large burrito should be about the size and weight of a brick. Not. Even. Joking.

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So that's the Arctic saved, then

Yesterday, you probably would've heard about the six female Greenpeace activists climbing London's newest and tallest tower, the Shard. At first glance, I'll admit I was unsure as to the reason why. Was it a protest against the fact the Shard looks so unfinished? I mean, why didn't they make it pointy instead of all jagged and splintered? The organisational freak in me cannot handle it. But it wasn't. Their aim was to draw attention to the Save the Arctic campaign, saying: "Shell is leading the oil companies' drive into the Arctic... A worldwide movement of millions has sprung up to stop them, but Shell is refusing to abandon its plans."

Shell added: "We work extensively with global Arctic stakeholders to research and develop standards and best practice on biodiversity, ecology, marine sound, oil spill prevention and response, safety and health."

Whether you think the volunteer climbers were brave or foolhardy, their fifteen-hour stunt certainly got attention from the press. And Twitter. And the police. The day ended with the six spending the night in a cell.

Karen, 49, an Event Organiser, didn't know of the plans to drill for oil. Having once sat in front of a bulldozer herself, she says she's "grateful to the six climbers who risked their lives to bring attention to the plans of Shell." Karen goes on to say: "It makes me angry to think big companies feel they have the right to destroy our planet, then use the excuse that it's in the public interest. There was a Twitter frenzy yesterday and it was good to see #IceClimb trending."

"Some naive people have since asked if they got permission to do the climb, but we all know there's no way permission would have ever been granted. I think it's great they were prepared to take this risk. We have a duty to do what we can to save our planet and to educate people, often through crazy stunts, as that's very often the only way the world will sit up and take notice, as proven in yesterday's climb."

Karen takes her hat off to Greenpeace and to everyone who braved the elements to highlight the plight of the Arctic. "This gives me and everyone else hope. The law enforcers should have cracked open a bottle of champagne for these women, not put them in a police cell! I know Shell is not the only company that wants to drill in the Arctic, but hopefully any other companies thinking of doing so will be taking a second look at their plans."

Laura, 32, a Digital Project Manager, says she couldn't be prouder of the girls. As an activist and climber, she's pro peaceful demonstrations and understands what great physical and mental efforts the six women put themselves through. "We need inspiring people like the ice climbers in order to be heard within the overwhelming amount of distractive information and misleading mainstream media chaos that is brain-storming us on a daily basis," she says. "These women have a truly genuine point to prove, a principle, an ideal, a vision and they're ready to go the extra miles to achieve it."

"Their achievement is clear already: they've put the drilling high on the news and politic agenda. It'll be harder now for politicians to dismiss the the topic and for Shell (or the likes) to avoid attention. The aim wasn't stopping the drilling - six women alone can't do that - but they've achieved a great goal yesterday: world attention!"

Laura truly feels it's the right thing to do as they weren't harming anybody. "Police intervention was to be expected but, in my opinion, unnecessary. I can see they're trying to do their job (or have to!) but escorting the women out the building would've been enough. We'll all know it was a stunt, and so do they."

David, 28, a Press Officer for a British charity, thinks differently. He admits he's no fan of Greenpeace and, after getting wind of their actions on Wednesday evening, he was far from impressed. "What I found, and still find, most confusing about their stunt was the decision to scale the Shard. They wanted to stop Arctic drilling, yet chose to make a point about this in central London. My question is simple – why?"

"My girlfriend says it’s about getting exposure and spreading their message. This is true, but only to an extent. Think back to the famous image of the stand-off in Tiananmen Square. ‘Tank Man’ made a massive difference to his cause. He wanted peace, so he stood in front of the tanks. ‘Swampy’ shot to fame in the mid-nineties after chaining himself to a tree in the path of the construction of the A30, therefore directly halting their progress."

With this in mind, he can't understand why the activists didn't head to the Arctic and directly influence the very thing they’re campaigning against. "Instead," David says, "they've just looked a bit silly, boasting about the six women in prison. They've wasted valuable police time, money and resources. It’d be interesting to know how many crimes took place during their PR stunt."

David knows he'll never see eye-to-eye with Greenpeace. "I’m all for campaigning about the cause you believe in, but if I wanted to stop Arctic drilling, central London would be the last place I would go."

What about you? Did you support the girls, or do you think it's just too ineffective to really bring about any change? We'd love to hear your thoughts!

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Malta: One for the beach bunnies

For those of us who see holidays as a chance to kick back and recharge; cycling, climbing and water sports are not our first port of call post hotel check-in. But there is no denying that stretching out on the sand day after day gets old and doesn’t make the most of the adventures available in sunnier climes. On my three-day whistle stop tour of all that Malta has to offer, I was treated to quad bikes, boat tours, segways and horse riding.

Quad biking is a great way to see Gozo if you want an overview of the island. We went out for an hour, but take your time and stop off in all the picturesque places for as many impromptu photo shoots as you can handle. It’s not an off-road trip so don’t go expecting to have your adrenaline sky rocket. Equally, if you want to really enjoy your environment, sit behind as pillion as you can’t drive safely and take in the view!

To travel in between Gozo and Malta, we took a private boat tour via Comino – a tiny isle in the middle of the channel in between the two bigger islands. The sea is crystal clear, and if you go out in a smaller boat you can be taken through the caves and watch the divers, fish schools and jellyfish. It’s great fun, you’ll get the wind in your hair and a brilliant vantage point to take in the entire Maltese archipelago.

The cliff top Segway tour was hugely popular with everyone in our group, except me. I didn’t hate it, I just didn’t really get it. My balance isn’t the best, and while I coped fine with the experience, I can’t say I derived any pleasure from it. However, I had always wanted to try it and I’m very glad I did – if you’ve wanted to give it a go, then you should! I was definitely the exception, not the rule, but if you’re not massively fussed then don’t go out of your way.

Finally, we headed to Bidnija Village for a horse riding session. Now, with seventeen years of equestrian experience under my belt, I’m biased. I was always going to have fun. The horsey people among you will understand that there is never a bad moment spent amongst our four legged companions. If you’ve never been, you’ll be taken out with a leader on an experienced horse. The stables are next door to a shooting range, so these beauties are quite literally gun proof. If you’re a more experienced rider, then go with people who are at a similar level to you – otherwise you’ll enjoy yourself, but might be a little bored.

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Malta: Adventures for active people

I’m not averse to exercise, but the thought of a full-on activities holiday daunted me. I was petrified every one else was going to be a hardcore sports nut and it would be impossible for me to keep up. Contrary to my fears, it really was enjoyable, proving you don’t need to be an Olympian to have a good time. So stop making excuses.

I tried a handful of adventures on offer to get the adrenaline flowing! 

I hiked and mountain biked on both Malta and Gozo, and I make absolutely no apologies for preferring Gozo for both activities. There are fewer cars, better ocean views, and easier routes. Cycling on Gozo was pretty straight forward, even for a nervous cyclist like me. You can make it up to the top of the cliffs and down across the saltpans. It’s got to be one of the best ways to see the island.

Make sure you visit the Azure Window: a natural window on the west side of Gozo, the last remnant of ancient underwater caves and currently nominated for one of the 8 Wonders of the World by VirtualTourist.com. If you’re an about-town cyclist like me, then I’d make sure you check your route carefully before cycling on Malta. We went on a 2-3 hour trip, which although promised as ‘mostly downhill’ took us up to the highest point on the island. Getting down from there involves an incredibly steep hill, which maxed out my brakes and lead me to crash into a wall in order to stop. Whilst my lack of cycling knowledge is entirely to blame, I was pretty shaken up and it spoiled the rest of the route for me. If, like me, you’re a bit nervous, just make sure you know where you’re going before you set off and jump off and push if things get too hairy to handle.

My favourite activity of the entire trip had to be the sea kayaking. I am an absolute sea virgin: I had never swum in the sea before (beach holidays aren’t the best if you have the attention span of a goldfish). Add this to my pitiful upper body strength and no one could have predicted that an inflatable kayak on a windy day would be my idea of a good time.

We were taken out by Andrew from MC Adventures and driven to a sheltered part of Malta where we inflated two person kayaks (sturdier than they sound) and spent an hour trying to navigate around the bay. I’m not going to admit to quite how many times there was an incident between us and a bigger, sturdier, anchored boat. It was the most fun I had on the whole trip, and laughed so hard that my ribs hurt far more than my arms. I recommend it whole-heartedly, and would go back just to do it again. If you don’t fancy kayaking, then there are a host of other water-based options including snorkelling, sea-level traversing, soloing, as well as rock-climbing and abseiling.

In the interests of full disclosure, I wouldn’t pay to go on an active holiday just to go exercise mad. But I’ve never considered seeking out these kinds of activities before and I definitely would now. Who knows what activities lay just around the corner in my usual holiday spots?

If you’re looking for a place with sunshine and beaches, but like me, you’ve got a low boredom threshold for being still-like-broccoli then this is something certainly worth looking out for. If I haven’t managed to persuade you that endorphins are your friend, then hand on for my next feature where I’ll tell you all about the less physically challenging options.

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Here's how to... dress for an interview (and other little tips and tricks to bag your dream job)

There comes a time in life when we need to dust off our special attire and go for that all important job interview. I know many of you beauties will be going for your interviews soon, fresh out of uni, school or just having a career change. It can seem daunting, having to prove your worth to people who've been in the business for years, so having the basics behind you when it comes to an interview is very important.

It takes fewer than 10 seconds to make an impression. When you meet someone face-to-face, 93% of how you are judged is based on non-verbal data, like appearance and your body language. Only 7% is influenced by the words you speak. So making a brilliant first impression is vital. And today I want to share some of my tips, including how to look the part, when it comes to getting that all important job.

What to wear

No matter what company or role you are applying for, you need to dress to impress. So if you're applying for an admin based role or similar, play it safe with a black pencil skirt or trousers, teamed with a nice blouse/top/jacket. I'd steer clear of wearing all black, but you can't go wrong with fairly neutral colours. And wear shoes that are comfortable yet classy. No scuffs.

If you're going for something more creative, like PR, or advertising you can afford to be a bit more daring and show some personality. In fact, it's encouraged. Although wearing that festival garland with denim dungarees, jellies and crop top is probably taking it a step too far.

I love this quote from Lauren Conrad on dressing for interviews: 'Always dress nicer than you think.'

Make up and beauty bits

This is always a touchy subject when it comes to interview make-up. I mean, do you wear a full face? No make-up? Barely there? Or do you just stay with your signature look? Personally, you can't go far wrong with your signature look, but tone it down. For instance, my day to day look is a cat eye with bronzer and a bright lip. For interviews however I slim down the cat eye, apply a dashing of bronzer and wear a BB cream instead of foundation with a nude gloss on the lips. It says I've made the effort, but I'm not trying too hard. Oh, and unless you wear falsies every day, leave them off.

Nails are another should you, shouldn't you. I can safely say after having been in a number of interviews with nail polish both on and off I would advise no nail polish. In my experience, employers - for some reason - don't like to see it. So unless you're applying to be a nail technician or admin at Nails Inc, just keep them neat and filed.

The paperwork

Always have your CV, portfolio and any references to hand, kept neatly in a decent folder. Not only does this make you look prepared, it gives the impression that you have nothing to hide (even if you haven't!) Another point to consider for having references to hand is to make your potential employer's job a little easier. Every little helps.

A few more tips...

So you're looking the part and have given a great first impression. The rest is up to you. There is nothing worse than being dishonest in an interview (trust me it will come back to bite you). If the interviewer asks you a question and you genuinely do not know the answer, then admit you don't know but emphasise  you want to learn or simply ask if they can explain the question in a different way (you may know the answer but the wording may have been confusing).

If you have had gaps in your employment, or have no experience for the job you're applying for then explain why and that you want to gain experience in the industry. Hype and work experience you've got, and skills that will make you an asset to the team. Mention you're open to training and get excited for the role you may possibly get.

The aftermath...

It's all in the follow through. After you've left the interview send an email thanking them for their time and state how serious you are about the role. Even better, if you felt you had something in common (like an affinity for a certain book or film or similar) mention this. Trust me, this is not sucking up. It's simply showing the employer you paid attention, you're keen on the role and, most importantly, want to work for their company.

Well beauties, I hope this information can help you out a little for that all important interview and please let me know how you get on below or at @sixoutoftenmag!

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Here's how to... beat a summer cold, fast

We all expect a cold in winter. After all, the combination of freezing weather, nights in eating tub after tub of ice cream and damp days of rain would take its toll on even the most healthy among us. But a cold in summer is just wrong. As I type, the sky is blue, birds are chirping, the cat's found a sun patch and is warming himself on the window sill... people are happy. THE WORLD is happy. It's no time to be struck with the lurgy. Especially if you're a hayfever sufferer - it's a double whammy of snot and coughs for you unfortunate souls.

So. If you're unlucky enough to have caught a summer cold - blocked nose, cough and all - there's not much you can do except ride it out, as there is no cure. Sorry about that. But here are a few simple remedies to help move it along so you can get back outdoors and enjoy the warmth, sunshine, and Pimms.

1. Rest loads

It may be tempting to head to the pub with all your mates, but a day spent out is the last thing your body needs. Sleep when you feel tired and laze about for a few days. This will give you time to recover and heal.

2. Drink loads

Water won't flush away your cold, but being hydrated will give you body the best chance to get rid of it. It'll also help with congestion and could make your head feel clearer. Sounds gross, but you'll want to drink enough to keep your wee a slight yellow colour.

3. Avoid caffeine and alcohol

Not only will they dehydrate you, but your body will have to work double-time to work them out of your system. Try hot lemon with honey as an alternative, or grab yourself a box of decaf if you're a tea addict. It's only for a week, so don't panic (although if the thought of no wine fills you with dread it's probably time to detox anyway).

4. Gargle

If you have a sore throat, gargling salt water can help soothe it.You'll need a glass of warm water and a teaspoon of salt. Make sure it's fully dissolved, then gargle for 20 seconds. Spit it out, then repeat until you've gone through the whole glass. Follow with a glass of lemon and honey to take the taste away (you can drink this!).

5. Steam

There's nothing worse than a blocked nose. Nasal sprays work well, but they can be addictive and leave your nose sensitive for weeks after use, so a more gentle way to rid congestion is with a bowl of steaming water, a towel and a few drops of Olbas Oil. Steam as often as necessary and you should start to feel a bit better.

What about you? Do you have any tried and tested family secret recipes, or are you more inclined to start on the pills until you can breathe normally again? 

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